Wisdom from a long time Single Girl.

So this was a slow week in the dating world for two reasons:

  1. I had a down week.
  2. I didn’t strike up a date option with anyone.

The Down Week

More like a down couple months. I hate being single, you’ve heard it over and over again. You can me a broken record, but please keep reading. There’s an upside…somewhere. Here’s the thing, I want to makes a nice man breakfast in bed, watch scary movies and snuggle, plan trips to see the world, and to balance me in this crazy life. I’ve wanted that for as long as I can remember, and when at 27 I still haven’t found the one, I resented myself for being single.

Being single is bad, right? Originally I chose to try and remain anonymous when writing this blog series. I’ve been single for a long time so I can give years of hope, anger, happiness… basically my emotions run the gamut and I will always be there for another single girl. always.

You will have friends who will be a serial monogamist, friends who will play the field and love it, but there’s one type of person who has to hide away in the bushes. Why can’t you be that person longing to find Mr. Right as long as it’s not mentally crippling you? Why can’t you have hope for the one? Why can’t you hate being single?

That’s me. Lexcee Riley, I have always hated being alone. Sure, it’s fine for a couple of hours, days even, but overall I’ve wanted someone to spend my life with since I watched my grandparents. They were married for over 50 years, and I get it, it was a different time and certainly a different place. Their love what was epic.

They are the reference book to which I hold my relationships up to, which I’ve been told isn’t fair, however I truly believe it is. Being open about being single frees me up to talk about them, to talk about the example they set and the hope they drove home. (Miss my grandmother’s birthday blog? Check it out!)

The Strike Out

It’s not that I stuck out but more or less that I didn’t try very hard. No, I don’t want to be the single girl forever, but it also shouldn’t be an all consuming effort. It took me a long time to realize that the effort I put into dating is the same effort I put into a relationship. I always assumed dating would be the hardest part, and maybe it will be. That’d be cool if it was. Finding a balance of how much time you should spending on and searching for your partner is a gift. Do you make them a priority above all else? Not exactly, but where does dating fall on the priority list. The fact that I hate being single makes dating rank very high in my book, but like all humans with all things, you need a break.

So while this week was slow, will tally ho forward, being proud of being single and hoping for the brightest of futures.

 

The Single Girl